Your wedding vows will leave a lasting impression on your partner, as well as your guests. Writing them, however, can be stressful for people who feel insecure about their writing skills or who aren’t used to expressing their romantic emotions in words. We’re giving you some tips to write heartfelt vows that will bring everyone to tears.
Take a break
You may be faced with the inevitable writer’s block, but this is nothing to worry about. Everyone gets stuck, even people who write for a living! To get over it, take a little break for yourself. Distract your mind with some music or whatever relaxes you. Sometimes ideas come out of nowhere, so if given time, there’s a better chance you’ll have a spark of something soon. Just don’t put off starting the writing process, otherwise you won’t have the luxury of time to take a break as you’ll be under the gun to get them done.
Think of memories
There are always memories to look back on that can help form your thoughts. Sometimes the best memories are even the little things, like a souvenir from your first date or being surprised with flowers. Keeping these memories fresh will help you think of what to write. Sharing a short memory also helps to personalize your vows so you aren’t reciting cookie cutter lines.
What’s the appeal you’re going for?
Do you want to be funny? Do you want guests to be bawling their eyes out? Do you want both and more? Try to keep these in mind as you’re writing. It’s also important to be true to yourself; if you are not a terribly serious person, it may feel odd to try to write serious vows. While it’s definitely not a time to be a stand up comedian, it’s OK to let your personality shine when you’re saying these important words.
Read them back
Be sure to read your vows multiple times, including out loud, so you can catch any awkward pauses or grammar errors. Reading them to a friend or family member is also helpful since they might be able to catch anything you may have missed. This also gives you a test run! Don’t feel like you have to memorize them, though, as a cheat sheet is encouraged. No need to add extra pressure!
Remember to say, “I love you”
This seems like the most apparent thing, but sometimes we need reminders, and in this case, we’re reminding you.