Weddings are meant to be happy occasions that bring two people together as one. They aren’t meant to be stressful events that bring the worst out people. We have to remember that weddings and marriages aren’t the same. How can they be when one is one night and the other is a lifetime.
I have never planned a wedding myself, but I have been in the wedding business for the last few years. I have seen fights, I have seen tears and I have seen stress. I understand that the wedding is supposed to be the best day of our lives, but is it worth it to let the stress of planning one day ruin relationships we have had for years.
I know it is easier said than done. Like in everything else we do we should have our “Why”. Our “why” is why we are doing what we are doing. Why are we planning a wedding? Why we want to get married? If we have our why from the beginning we can keep going back to it when the stress is too much.
The why brings us back to center and can help us on stay focused on what’s important like each other and not which napkin looks better. In my opinion the calmer you are during planning process the better the marriage will be. It all comes down to listening and communication. If you have bad communication during stressful times it only makes things harder.
Marriages and Weddings always surround a “why” we just never think about in that way, but it’s time that we do.